The Right Person Myth - Andy StanleyOkay, maybe not. Last February I decided to try a series or book. So I downloaded the Kindle version and quickly read it. After seeing how incredibly practical the book is, I wanted to get it into the hands of every teenager in our ministry. I appreciate the solid content, and so did our small groups as they watched intently and leaned in to listen. We purchased the four-week small-group DVD set and gave each leader a copy of the book a month in advance.
What you can control is what you do in the meantime. Who knows there may be someone out there preparing for you as well!
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On a Personal Note: Andy Stanley is a former pastor of mine, and have enjoyed his teachings, Christian leadership, and his insightful books, as well as his father, Dr. Charles Stanley. When I moved to Atlanta in earlymy sons were away at college in another state; I was single, divorced, and in my late thirties. I was fortunate to become an integral part of what is now North Point Ministries, from the beginning of its inception in l For the first three years we met every other Sunday night in rented facilities, and when the Olympics came to town, we were unable to meet for nine weeks.
Later the land was purchased in Alpharetta, GA and construction began —what is now North Point —some great times, a huge singles group, and many budding friendships grew out of this fabulous foundation.
However, since I lived in Buckhead, was thrilled when inbecame a part of the Buckhead Church and again we held services in rented facilities in different areas of town. It was so exciting with the preparations building our new church; however, I relocated, for work to Florida in and have been here since.
I missed the permanent facility at Tower Place in the heart of Buckhead in May where the church is thriving today. Cannot wait to go back for a visit. All singles need friends like these!What Happy Couples Know, Part 1: Nothing // Andy Stanley
Highly Recommend! No matter where you are in your life or your spiritual journey — it will change how you think about the present and the future. Well done!
Miss you guys at Buckhead Church Atlanta. Judith D. Collins Must Read Books Jan 08, Tiffany Lewis rated it it was amazing. LOVED this book! It needs to be read by every Christian teen! Because it says everything that I want to say to my girlsand it says it better than I ever could. In New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating, pastor and bestselling author Andy Stanley provides practical, biblical, uncensored advice to anyone who is dating or thinking about marriage.
Stanley outlines the triumphs and tragedies of dating in the twenty-first century. A few days before I started reading this book, one of my oldest girlfriends and I were talking about how our parents talked to us about sex.
Both sets, having the same views, basically told us "It's bad to have sex before marriage. When we tell kids "No. Kids, and young adults, want to know why. There is an ingrained curiosity in kids of all ages to know the who, what, where, when, and why of all things. Only when they know the reason behind the statement, will they consider adopting it as their own beliefs. We literally set our children up for failure when we don't explain why we wait for marriage to have sex.
Andy Stanley debunks this theory but, more importantly, he expands on it in continuing chapter. He comes up with a brilliant line that I am going to use on my girls: "Are you the person the person you're looking for is looking for? I loved it! What a concept! You need to be the kind of person that the kind of person you want will actually want.
This is a life truth that needs to be taught more than it is. It would change lives if we managed to get our children to understand this concept before they left the house so that they could apply it to all aspects of their lives. Jobs, relationships, etc. Stanley really gets into the good stuff starting with Chapter 6 "The Gentleman's Club" where he talks about how to treat a woman.
This is left out of so many books, and young men are left to figure it out on their own. They adore women and expect them to be lifted up, respected, cherished and valued.
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There is no chapter in this book about being a submissive wife, just reminders to men that Jesus consistently elevated the status of women while he was here and how men are expected to do the same. This is not talked about enough in relationship books and I applaud Andy Stanley for adding it. Stanley uses Chapter 7 "The Way Forward" to talk about porn. He doesn't just talk about how bad it is and that it goes against God's plans, but he explains why it can harm you in the long run.
And he suggests getting help for it before you start dating. Again, not another chapter with rules and no explanation, Stanley does a great job of breaking it down so that it makes sense to young minds. He gets it! That makes so much sense!
It is so perfect and exactly what I want my girls to understand before they leave my house. That's why I'm saving this book until my girls are old enough to read and discuss it. Andy Stanley managed to put into black and white what parents have been struggling to say for decades, and he does it with such a great sense of humor.
I laughed out loud several times while reading because of Stanley's sarcastic humor. I seriously can not recommend this book enough. Oct 23, Anino rated it it was amazing Shelves: romanceinspirationcommon-sense-wisdomrelationshipsinspirational-elementscoaching-mentoringcoaching-motivational-bookschristian-non-religiosity-type-app. For those who really want to get married, listening to what this man has to say will really help you if you want to be helped. A lot of times, we make it complicated because we close our eyes and ignore the blaring lights that attempt to warn us against stumbling blindly into one meaningless relationship after another.
Andy Stanley definitely has the goods in regards to being able to relate to people, in a way that leaves one feeling hopeful, instead of ashamed and condemned.
Apr 08, Christine Baptiste rated it it was amazing. The book you need to read if you want to understand the value of abstaining from sex until marriage.
It was written in a non preachy non judgemental way that makes you want to continuing reading even if you didn't agree at first. Mar 22, Veronica rated it it was amazing Shelves: romancebiblicallibrary-book-challengenon-fictionnew-author-to-you Every single, from teens and up, should read this book! Great advice; really makes you think about how you view relationships and finding the "right" person and what you're doing to become the right person.
Especially good for those just starting to date so they can stop mistakes before they make them, but it's never too late to start fresh! Apr 29, Stephanie rated it it was amazing.
Amazing read! I will reference this book for a long time. Jan 30, Amariah Dixon rated it it was amazing. This book is informative and has sound info about dating. The advice Andy Stanley gives is very helpful. I highly recommend this book! Andy Stanley is also a good speaker. View all 6 comments. Nov 11, Victoria Victoria's Reading Pantry rated it liked it Shelves: christianimprovementnon-fiction. OK here's the thing - Andy Stanley just really gets under my skin.
Everything he talks about just seems to be him saying "What you know is wrong. You're wrong. What I know is right. And I'm going to change your life by telling you this. As for this book - good stuff. Everyone can get at least something from it I'm sure. And the whole "becoming the rig OK here's the thing - Andy Stanley just really gets under my skin.
And the whole "becoming the right person" is good advice, I'm just not sure the motivation for becoming a better person ought to be to find a spouse.
As for me, well, I already held all of the beliefs expressed in this book. And to have everything presented as "you don't know about any of this, let me reveal to you the secrets of good relationships" just didn't fly with me, since I've grown up knowing all this.
That's not to say the ideas presented in this book are bad, like I said I already hold them. It's just the way they're presented seemed a little condescending. Do I recommend this book? There's some good stuff in it. Do I think it'll drastically change your view of relationships?
The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating book. Read 84 reviews from the world's largest community for readers. 'Are you who the person you are looking for. The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating. Andy Stanley. "Are you who the person you are looking for is looking for?"—AndyStanley. Single?. The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating Q&A with Andy. In this episode, Andy is interviewed on the topics of love, sex, and dating.
I can't say. It didn't for me, but then again I'm an oddity. Note: someone I respect gave me this book to read, and that's why I did.
Jul 26, Josh Stowers rated it it was ok. A couple of positives: Really great wisdom for a De-christianized nation. Anyone that follows his advice will be relationally successful. It strips its purpose by directing the only meaning of marriage as being temporally beneficial but not God glorifying. This is painfully obvious. Finally thoughts: I am not saying that Andy does not believe the things he does not mention.
However he does not take this approach with churches. He suggest to find the biggest church in your area and it just has to be big for a good reason. Pragmatism will lead people to a form of godliness that not only denies his power but his deserved glory. Feb 09, Brandi Peek rated it really liked it. I would really say that I would rate this a 4. It would have been great if someone had explained all the ideas and concepts to the early me in the way that Andy Stanley communicates it.
He does a good job of being blunt and straightforward about love and all the wrong choices we tend to make based on wrong thinking. I also think he communicates this in a I would really say that I would rate this a 4. The book can seem repetitive at times, but I think that is the point. I feel like his insight and advice reaches far beyond a romantic love.
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It is relatable to all relationships. I would highly recommend this book. Obviously, the content is similar to the sermon series he does, but it expands areas that needed expanding.
Stanley is very forthright and blunt which I found both helpful and intimidating. He does not sugar coat anything. He is a good communicator as is clear if you have listened to him speakhe uses language that is easy to understand - he is direct. Could not recommend this book highly enough to single people, but also would recommend welpppppppppppppp wish I read this when I was about Could not recommend this book highly enough to single people, but also would recommend it to anyone for it's take on 1 Corinthians 13 and how to apply that to real life.
After all Sep 01, Vernita Naylor rated it it was amazing Shelves: relationshipsinspirationhealthwomenemotional-balanceinterpersonal-relationshipsculturalsocial-issuesmarriageeasy-to-read.
Are these words interconnected in any way or do they stand alone in your mind? Pastor Andy Stanley of the Atlanta based North Point Ministries provides a candid approach on how to effectively date.
Jun 27, Sarah rated it it was amazing. I was surprised and happy to see that it goes over all of the facets of relationships.
13 quotes from The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating: 'Are you the person the person you're looking for is looking for?'. Andy Stanley, in The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating emphasizes that instead of looking for the right person, you need to become the right.
Dec 17, Caitlin Dean rated it did not like it. I got about three chapters in and I'm giving up.
There's something about this book that is really bothering me. I think it's his tone of voice through his lectures. I was already wary reading a Christian based book on dating, when I myself don't align with a lot of Christian values.
And I couldn't shake his patriarchal "Father knows best" tone of voice. Maybe it's just not the right time in my life to read this book. Jan 17, Judy Bell rated it it was amazing. This book stretched me. I wish someone had given me this book years ago. Before I got married. I'm going to pass this book on to all my friends. Thanks Andy for writing a message that gets to the heart of matters.
We think we do. But in the end, regardless of how many potential right candidates there are, one and only one is chosen. The right one. As of the writing of this book, it appears that five contestants chose well.
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The others? They moved on to the next right person.
Then they set off looking for the Right Person. They met someone they were physically attracted to, added sex to the relationship right away, and fell into a kind of neurochemical bliss that made them believe that not only had they never loved like this, no one in human history had.
But once they got married, they had a problem: all their marriage had going for it was chemistry. Neither the husband nor the wife knew anything about relationships. Soon enough, their relationship problems began causing chemistry problems. The sexual part of the marriage died, leaving both of them frustrated and confused. Separation and divorce followed. No one wants to watch a movie about a happily married couple. Think about some popular movies, TV shows, and songs about romance.
Which of the rules do you agree with? Which ones do you disagree with? You need to become the right person. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.